Every February, as the aisles of stores fill with heart-shaped chocolates and vibrant bouquets of flowers, I take a moment to reflect on the true meaning of Valentine’s Day in my life. For me, it’s not just about romantic love; it’s about expressing gratitude and affection for all the people who hold the deepest place in my heart: my parents, my friends and especially my children. That’s why, without fail, the first Valentine’s card I write every year is to them.
This tradition began when my kids were little, almost by accident. Conner was just starting to recognize words, and Kara loved any excuse to receive something special. I had always given them a gift but thought it would be sweet to write them each a Valentine, expressing in words how much I adored them and how proud I was of the little people they were becoming. What I didn’t realize at the time was how much these letters would come to mean to all of us over the years.
A Gift of Words
There’s something powerful about putting pen to paper and writing heartfelt words. In today’s world of texts and emojis, taking the time to write a physical letter feels almost old-fashioned—but that’s part of the magic. When I sit down to write my letters to Conner and Kara, I pour my heart onto the page. I tell them about the little things that made me smile over the past year—the way Conner’s humor can light up a room or how Kara’s determination inspires me daily. I write about the moments that made me proud, the challenges they overcame, and the dreams I have for their future.
I also take the opportunity to remind them of something I hope they never forget: they are loved unconditionally. They know all too well that life can be unpredictable and, at times, challenging, but I want my kids to always get tangible reminders that they are my forever love. No matter how old they get, no matter where life takes them, they can hold onto these words and know they have a piece of my heart with them.
Strengthening Our Bond
This tradition has become a cornerstone of our relationship. As my kids have grown older, their reactions to the letters have evolved. When they were young, they would giggle and ask me to read the letters aloud, pointing out their favorite parts. Now that they’re a bit older, I’ve noticed they take the letters to their rooms, reading them quietly and carefully. Sometimes, they’ll come back to me with a hug and a simple, “Thank you, Mom.” It’s a beautiful way to connect on a deeper level, to remind them that they’re seen and valued as individuals.
Forever Love
Valentine’s Day can sometimes feel like a commercialized holiday, but for me, it’s a reminder to celebrate the people who truly matter. While romantic gestures are lovely and Galentine’s parties are fun – the love I have for my kids is the foundation of my world. They are my forever Valentines, and writing these letters is my way of honoring that bond.
If you’ve never written a letter to your child, I encourage you to try it this Valentine’s Day. It doesn’t have to be perfect or poetic. Just write from your heart. Whether your child is a toddler or a teenager, they’ll cherish knowing how deeply they’re loved. And who knows? It might just become a tradition that strengthens your connection.
So, this February, while the world celebrates love in all its forms, take a moment to celebrate the love that is unconditional, unwavering, and eternal. Write your child a Valentine’s letter, and let them know they are—and always will be—your forever love.